Award-Winning Porn Addiction Therapy in NJ and PA

You’re Tired of Breaking Promises.

You told yourself it would be the last time. You may have tried accountability, blockers, or white-knuckling it. Yet here you are again—caught in the same cycle you swore you’d never return to. The secrecy. The late nights. The immediate guilt. Maybe someone has told you to quit—or maybe you’re just exhausted from carrying this alone. It’s not the life you want—or the man you want to be.

Unwanted sexual behaviors and porn use don’t persist because you’re weak or undisciplined. They persist because something underneath hasn’t been addressed. When that system is understood and worked through, control stops being a constant fight.

And if you’ve tried therapy before with someone who wasn’t trained to treat this complex issue, it makes sense that nothing changed. That’s why it’s crucial to work with someone who understands the deeper drivers behind compulsive sexual behavior—and knows how to treat them with clinical precision and care.

• Reduced sex drive, porn-induced erectile dysfunction, or trouble reaching orgasm with a real partner

• Emotional disconnection, isolation, and loneliness

• Declining performance at work or school

• Avoiding friends, family, and activities you once enjoyed

• Lower self-esteem, self-confidence, and social anxiety

• Difficulty concentrating or staying present

• Irritability, anger, and shame

• Spending increasing amounts of time watching pornography

• Seeking out more extreme or unusual material over time

• Using porn despite repeated attempts to stop or negative consequences

• Hiding or lying about the extent of porn use

• Escalating to other risky or out-of-control sexual behaviors

• Losing attraction and interest in spouse or real partner

• Depression or low mood and energy

Signs You May Have a Problem With Pornography

If this feels familiar, you’re not alone—and it doesn’t have to stay this way.

Pornography use often starts as a coping strategy, but over time it can affect multiple areas of life:

Porn Addiction: More Common Than You Think

Porn addiction—also called compulsive sexual behavior or problematic pornography use (PPU)—happens when someone repeatedly struggles to control their use despite the harm it causes to relationships, emotional health, and daily life. Many try to quit countless times, only to relapse. It’s not a willpower issue; deeper emotional and psychological drivers fuel the cycle. The World Health Organization now recognizes Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder in ICD-11, which can include compulsive pornography use.

For many men, porn use also clashes with personal values or faith, creating intense internal conflict—especially in Christian communities, where belief and behavior collide. Knowing something is wrong yet feeling unable to stop is a sign the issue is deeper than the behavior itself.

Most treatment programs only target the behavior. Real change requires healing the underlying drivers—unmet needs, attachment wounds, and negative core beliefs—not just handing out coping skills.

The good news: recovery is absolutely possible. At Proven Path Counseling, we go beyond surface tools to address the behavior and the roots beneath it—helping you break the cycle, rebuild trust, and live free.

What About Sex Addiction?

Sex addiction shares the same underlying drivers as pornography addiction—trauma, shame, and unhealthy attachment patterns—but involves real-world behaviors such as affairs, risky encounters, or compulsive use of dating apps. In some cases, pornography use escalates into in-person acting out.

Treatment focuses on the same underlying patterns through a trauma-informed, whole-person approach.

Elite-Level Care You Can Trust—Without Leaving Home

Most pornography addiction programs stop at behavior control. We go deeper—addressing the trauma, shame, core beliefs, and attachment wounds that keep the cycle alive.

As a therapist with training in treating sex and porn addiction and certified to treat trauma, I provide trauma-informed, evidence-based care with optional faith integration. This approach supports clients who want to break free for good—not just manage symptoms.

You receive the depth, specialization, and one-on-one attention many men associate with high-cost programs, but without leaving your life, family, or work.

The truth is, most well-meaning and otherwise competent generalist therapists aren’t trained in—or confident in—treating pornography and sex addiction. Without the right tools, the work stays surface-level and time and money are wasted.

That’s why other therapists regularly refer men to Proven Path Counseling. They recognize the advanced training and specialization required to treat this complex issue with care, precision, and depth.

This is highly specialized therapy that supports lasting change:

• In-depth assessment and personalized treatment plans — Comprehensive, individualized treatment planning tailored to you, your history, and your goals.

• Practical Tools and Evidence-Based Tactics — to establish stability, improve emotional regulation, reduce risk, and create the structure needed for deeper work to begin.

• Root Cause & Core Belief Work — Transform deep-seated beliefs driving the behavior, rebuilding confidence, resiliency, and a healthy sense of self.

• Trauma-Informed Healing — Address trauma and attachment wounds that keep the nervous system stuck in reactivity.

• Integrity & Identity Repair — Rebuild a life of authentic connection, purpose, and congruence after secrecy and shame.

• Relationship Repair (when applicable and if requested) — Support trust-building, reconciliation, and intimacy.

• Practical, At-Home Change —Practical, at-home change—no disappearing for weeks or uprooting your life. Real progress happens where you actually live, work, and face temptation.

• High-Accountability — Clear structure, consistent follow-through, and ongoing support so progress holds outside of sessions, not just inside them.

If You’re in a Relationship…

While I work one-on-one and do not do couples counseling, when the time is right, you may invite your partner into a session or two to help rebuild trust, give hope, coordinate support for yourself from a loved one, and improve communication. It’s always your choice.

Peter D. Ruffini, EdS, MA, LPC, LPCMH, ACS, EMDRPT-II

“Pete is my go-to specialist for men struggling with pornography. Regular therapists are great for common mental health concerns, but men need more than regular therapy for this highly complex and insidious issue.”

— Kevin Namur, Head Pastor of Redeemer Alliance Church in Robbinsville, NJ.